SOWING ANGER REAPS HATRED

                                                SOWING ANGER REAPS HATRED
 

            As social beings, humans always need the help of others to fulfill their life needs, therefore in carrying out every activity they do, they always try to maintain harmonious relationships with each other. However, in the course of life and social interactions, sometimes there are   high-pitched remarks that indicate anger between them . As with life in office institutions, generally angry remarks are often thrown by superiors to subordinates, which is caused by a discrepancy between orders and the realization of implementation. Such conditions are commonplace, even being used as a method and type of leadership in an effort to control subordinates to always obey and comply with superiors, besides from the positive side this can be done in order to realize a culture of order and discipline, so that the objectives of implementing organizational tasks can be gradually achieved.

          The moment of leadership change is an atmosphere that can cause tension, because the leader's character will determine the situation and atmosphere of the office as a whole. One thing that is undesirable is to get a leader who has a bad temper and always prioritizes emotional attitudes in every policy decision, where such actions have the potential to cause discomfort in every work implementation . A leader who has a figure of anger in various settings and situations is an   unethical act, so it can cause feelings of resentment   among staff and employees. As a result of this resentment, a situation will arise where subordinates will always avoid when meeting and distance themselves when approached.

             High-pitched words   and remarks can occur between husband and wife, as well as parents to children, this indicates the dynamics of life that occur as an effort to create order and obedience in family life, besides that it is also a process of recognizing and getting used to the nature and character of individuals in   maintaining and maintaining household harmony. However, excessive anger venting   carried out in all situations is one of the human characters that is difficult to control , and has become a habit that cannot be suppressed by anyone, except by those who are close and truly understand their character and personality.

             Anger is an impulse that arises as an expression of dissatisfaction with the actions of others . This can  occur as a result of the actions and behavior of people who always want compliance with all  their wishes, and emotions will arise when everything they expect is not realized. These actions and behaviors can occur spontaneously without being able to be controlled,  due to habits or innate traits that are difficult to eliminate. The emergence of an angry character can come from family life where parents are accustomed to throwing high-pitched words spoken by children, so that all  parental behavior will influence the child's character to do the same as what is displayed. Thus, children who come from   families that instill violence in speech, have a tendency to do the same actions in interacting with others . This innate factor often appears in  various life situations both in the work environment and in social interactions.

It is important to note that anger is a negative trait that should be avoided, given that our culture is still steeped in Eastern traditions, and always prioritizes politeness in speech , and avoids the tension caused by anger. Spreading anger to everyone will cause feelings of displeasure and antipathy in the social environment, in addition to these traits and characteristics will always be remembered and remembered by those  who have been angered. Therefore, in fact, anger and character will diminish and disappear with age, where the older a person becomes, the more patient and wiser in dealing with problems . Let us prioritize patience, and control our emotions in establishing communication with others. In addition, say the sentence Istighfar when emotions are running high. If this is done regularly, it will reduce the emotions and anger within us.